Statistics show that there’s only 17% of women say they orgasm all the time. Over 70% say that they fake orgasms with their partner at least on occasion.
Over 5000 people were studied and the findings revealed that a large percentage of female pretend to have reached a climax when they haven’t. 10% of those women said they pretend to have reached their climax just to end their romp quicker. Although, 43% of women claimed they put on false groans during sex. 39% believe their partner has no clue they are not enjoying themselves. In another survey conducted by a condom company, one in every ten women fakes an orgasm weekly.
Believe it or not, likely at some point in your life, you’re going to be receiving end of a faked orgasm. If that happens or if you know that it’s happening, you’re going to want to understand why it’s happening.
Science gives 7 reasons for why women fake orgasms during oral and vaginal sex. First, she’s worried that she can’t reach orgasm. Second, she’s embarrassed or self-conscious and she thinks the guy is waiting for her to have an orgasm. Third, she wants to make the sex stop because she is not enjoying it. Fourth, she’s insecure or afraid to express herself. Fifth, it turns her on and she finds it really hot when they see a man reached their climax. Lastly, she wants to make her partner feel good.
Is faking an orgasm bad for your relationship?
When we look at the internet, there is tons of information that tells the orgasm gap happening in the bedroom. If all this faking is happening, what it’s like for the other person? Can they tell?
In many studies and surveys, most people could tell an orgasm is faked through sounds or moans. So what happens in a relationship if one person is faking and the other person can’t tell? Is this ultimately bad for their sex life?
Being enthusiastic, perhaps not in an authentic reflex way, but through motions of your body, through your breath, through your noises is reinforcing in and of itself. But when you feel pressure to have to pretend that something happened to your body, that you’re pleased in a way that you’re not and not being authentic to yourself and your partner, that can lead to problems over time.
So, faking the short term is okay, but faking it in the long-term can be a problem.
How To Get It Right
If you’re this woman, ask yourself these questions: What role did you play in regards to your lack of ability to hit orgasm? What role did you play to let it get this far? Accept the reality of your role and responsibility in any dysfunction in your relationship.
Stats clearly show that there’s a very high percentage of women that could not come to climax or to orgasm with their partner. Yet, they had never talked to their partner about it. If it’s necessary to get a help from a sex therapist, then do it. The way to do that is through communication. When we look at what are all the problems in relationships, they are all about communication.